I think back to some of my encounters with patients and feel lousy that I probably acted as if I were not really "there" with the patient. Even though as an ER doctor I learned to multi-task very early on, the patient never knew that I really could pay strict attention to them and what they were saying while still hearing and seeing everything that was going  on around me in the ER.

I imagine they thought I wasn't interested in them and therefore didn't think their problem was very important.  And that's not the case at all.

So, I caution people to not make snap judgments about whether your doctor is listening to you or not. You cannot really tell just based on how they do or don't look at you. On a personal note, I have to tell people I'm talking with (including my best friends) that if I'm looking away, I'm probably trying to concentrate/think and listen to a greater degree. I find that when I look at you and try to pay attention to you, I get distracted - usually by your eyes for they ARE the window to your soul and you can learn so much from someone's eyes. But, if I don't tell the other person this, they might think that my looking away is a sign of boredom. And it's just the opposite. A fine line to walk.

Use all your senses to accumulate an entire picture about what's happening with the doctor before you judge that he or she is not "interested" in you or your problem.

Terrie

What on earth do I mean by that? What is perception? All I know is that perception is reality. How many times have we heard that? And how often do we think of that when we’re in the medical environment? Probably not as often as we should…..

I was having lunch with a good friend and his wife (whom I’ve gotten to know fairly well in the past 2 years). She told me about her encounter with a new doctor recently for a sinus infection. She was adamant when she simply stated "I know enough about what’s going on in my body that by the time I go to the doctor, I just want them to give me the drugs I need." My internal reaction to that was very disconcerting. I understood what she was saying but my doctor-instinct was horrified - I know I’m telling alot about myself

I wanted to explain to her that sometimes she might not know exactly what was wrong with her because "after all, you’re not medical" but i restrained my tongue for once, knowing that what she believed was, in fact, reality to her - and therefore, she probably did know what she needed.

I recalled a very sad case where a mother did not want to take her twin daughters home from the ER because they did not seem "better" to her after their asthma treatment. The ER doctor (not me, thank goodness) told her that the girls were not wheezing so they "must" be better. So, reluctantly mom took them home. The outcome was not good - one of the girls ended up dying. I tell this not to be morbid but to emphasize to patients that they really do know their bodies better than anyone (and to remind the physicians to listen to the patients and pay attention). I learned such a valuable lesson that night, nearly 28 years ago - and I think that’s what held my tongue in abeyance with my friend’s wife.

The point is that doctors and patients have different perspectives and therefore the perception of each is most likely 180 degrees apart. Each of us has to ask for clarification or offer it if we want to be understood by the other - and if we’re not understood, we’re in deep trouble.

Doctors - throw away your judgments and open up your ears AND your minds.

Patients - stick up for yourself and make sure your doctor hears you and where you’re coming from. And then make sure you understand what he’s saying.

Perception really is reality

Til next time…..

Terrie

This is very long but well worth the read (to me anyway). Although it’s about the mental health professionals, it could certainly be applied to any physician. Know anyone who fits this bill?

This article received a Thinking Blogger Award!

 This is my proposal for the DSM inclusion of a new section that outlines and categorizes the features of Mental Health Professional Personality Disorders or MHPPDs.

This proposal begins with a general definition of Mental Health Professional Personality Disorder that applies to each of the 4 specific MHPPDs. An MHPPD is an enduring pattern of inability to empathize with or understand the inner experience and behavior of certain patient populations that deviate markedly from the MHP’s own expectations, individual culture, life experience, values, and personal lifestyle preferences. MHPPD is pervasive, inflexible, prejudicial and has an onset upon reading educational psychiatric literature, engaging in disparaging prejudicial discussion with “more experienced” colleagues, may be triggered by reading a chart with which includes a previous undesirable diagnosis for a patient, is stable over time, and leads to further distress or impairment in the condition of the MHP’s patient. The Mental Health Professional Personality Disorders included in this proposal are listed below.

Mental Health Professional Paranoid Personality Disorder is a pattern of distrust and suspiciousness such that patients’ motives are interpreted as malevolent or manipulative.

Mental Health Professional Antisocial Personality Disorder is a pattern of disregard for and violation of the rights of patients.

Mental Health Professional Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a pattern of grandiosity, need for the compliance of one’s patients, and a lack of empathy for the experience or suffering of those patients.

Mental Health Professional Coercive Personality Disorder is a pattern of dominant and aggressive authoritarian behavior related to an excessive need to be in control of patient treatment decisions.

Mental Health Professional Personality Disorder Not Otherwise Specified is a category provided for two situations: 1) the MHP’s personality pattern meets the general criteria for an MHPPD and the traits of several different MHPPDs are present, but the criteria for any specific MHPPD are not met; or 2) the MHP’s personality pattern meets the general criteria for an MHPPD that is not included in the Classification (e.g., mental health professional passive-aggressive personality disorder). It should be noted that MHPs frequently present with co-occurring personality disorders.

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